Would you clear your partner's debt given the opportunity?
Breaking the bank or breaking hearts? These are the questions we hope to answer today...
Debt is a difficult thing. If you don’t have it, chances are someone you know does.
It’s a burden that takes a lifetime to release and weighs heavily on our hearts for years.
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The stress and emotional toil is truly relentless.
When you’re in a relationship you always hope for the best… that things will work out.
In order to relieve this unforgiving pressure for your partner, you could assist them in clearing their debt - provided that you are in a financial position to assist.
Yes, there are times when it can get messy, but the benefits of having a happy, stress-free, and financially-free partner outweigh the risk of failure.
Many have very conflicting beliefs, but one thing is for sure - debt sucks.
So if you can do something about it, why not?
By the same token, financial issues can often bring about major disagreements in relationships, so it may be better to just focus on your own finances.
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If you’re anything like Stacey, she has “been there, done that.”
With life experience, she has since realised she would opt to not help her partner clear their debt. In the past, when she offered, she was only trying to fix things for her partner, but she has realised that it did not end well.
In the current state of affairs, we need to be responsible for our own financial well-being and health.
On the contrary, J Sbu would not want his partner to ask for assistance but rather something he offers to do because he is in a position to do so.
If he was able to, depending on the relationship and circumstance, then he definitely would clear the debt.
The question was posed to our listeners, too.
Their responses were as follows:
- In a heartbeat, I would not expect a pay back payment either.If for some reason it is returned, it would be a bonus.
- Only if it was made during the time that we are together
- No he enjoyed the money without me so enjoy paying your debt without me.. Simple
- Nope. ...definitely not a boyfriend. Lessons learnt along the way!
- Without even thinking twice about it.
- If he was honest about it from the start of the relationship, I would have known what I'm in for. But when it comes as a surprise ...no sorry.
- Yes, why not, the stress of debt is cancer causing.
- I did that before and I won't make that mistake again..
As you can see there is no one definite answer on how you should tackle aiding your partner's debt.
If you decide to be with them for the long haul, ultimately this debt will be bestowed unto you.
Although, if things don’t work out, you have just wasted your money and caused conflict that perhaps would’ve saved your relationship.
What would you do?
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Image courtesy of Stacey and J Sbu