Carol Ofori reacts to Whoopi Goldberg's parenting advice
"You cannot be friends with your kids!" - Whoopi Goldberg.
We recently heard Whoopi Goldberg share her candid views on parenting on the popular talk show, 'The View'.
Goldberg is a mother to Alexandrea 'Alex' Martin and honestly shared that being friends with your kids is not a reality she believes in.
She said: "You can yell at me if you want to but I believe this is true. You cannot be friends with your kids - when you have to do the things that you have to do as a parent."
Watch what she said below, courtesy of Instagram.
Carol Ofori concurs with the award-winning actress.
I don't think you can be friends with your kids. By this I mean you can't be close, close friends with your kids. There are no boundaries, there are no lines, and when your kids, especially when they are younger, think you are their friend, there's no line that can be drawn when you are trying to instil discipline. They just think you're friends, so you don't mean it when you say, "You're grounded", you don't mean it when you say you have to pick up after yourself. So, I think your kids must know that you are absolutely obsessed and love them to bits, but they must never think they are your friends because it really warps the lines of who's the parent and who's the child; who instils the rules and who must obey the rules.
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People had a lot to say about Goldberg's advice. We think that many of them didn't understand that she wasn't saying that you can't ever be friends with your kids, but not when they are younger. Kids need structure, guidance, and authority when they are younger.
We understood her differently in that you can be friends with your kids when they get older and become adults, there's a different dynamic when your child is an adult.
- "Sorry love. I am good friends with my mother. We are there for each other and I include her in everything. We advice each other and look out for one another. Sorry you come from "unfriendly" women and are one yourself. It's very obvious"
- "Of course you can be friends with your kids. Friends with clear boundaries. I give you advice, I’ll hang out with you, I’m there for you when you NEED me. BUT DON’T YOU DARE DISRESPECT ME!"
- "I’m 43 and I wholeheartedly agree with her. There are so many parents nowadays who try to be friends with their kids and that’s where (the majority of the time) the discipline falls apart. Once they are self sufficient and running their own lives, then you’ve done your job and the dynamic shifts a bit. You will always be their parent, but now you are no longer responsible for their well being and the friendship part flourishes"
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