Things to consider if you want to date a co-worker

Things to consider if you want to date a co-worker

Being honest is one of the key things when dating a colleague. 

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Dating in general can come with a host of things to do and not do, but dating a colleague is a whole other thing. 

We know that falling for a co-worker can be something that many fall into, after all, you spend so much of your day with your co-workers. But before entering into a relationship with a co-worker, it is important to think this through properly. 

Here are some things to consider before entering into an office romance. 

  • Weigh out the risks

Consider that it might not work out. Besides hurt feelings, there could be a compromised work environment that could cause tension.

  • Do you have the best intentions?

Consider the fact that if you are going to be dating someone who ranks in a higher position, that may be questioned by your co-workers. Are you and your potential office romance able to keep work professional without involving personal feelings?

  • Company policy

Familiarise yourself with the company policy before embarking on an office romance because it very well might be against policy.

  • Steer clear from your boss and subordinates

"Art Markman, a professor of psychology and marketing at the University of Texas at Austin says, 'No matter what your intentions are, it’s best not to date your managers or subordinates. It is a bad idea to get involved with anybody who is in your chain of command — up or down.'" (Harvard Business Review)

  • Be open about it from the start

Full disclosure of your relationship with your bosses and human resources manager is vital. 

"This might be tough advice to follow, especially if you’re not sure where the relationship will go. You don’t have to tell them after the first date,” says Markman, “but letting people know reduces the awkwardness” and increases the likelihood that they’ll be positive about the relationship." (Harvard Business Review)


  • Set boundaries

Even though people may know about your relationship at work, don't subject them to flirting or fighting. This not only will make your co-workers uncomfortable, but it will also create dissatisfaction with their work responsibilities. 

  • Be realistic if it ends

Sometimes things don't work out and if that's the case, then be professional about it. Don't bring your personal feelings into your work. It may cause friction with your job security or that of your ex's. 

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