" I am afraid to tell my conservative family that I am pregnant"- 22-year-old KZN student shares

"I am afraid to tell my conservative family that I am pregnant" - 22-year-old KZN student shares

In many traditional households, particularly in South Africa which is a relatively conservative country,  falling pregnant outside of wedlock is seen as taboo. 

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The same is so for KZN listener Serisha, who is a second year student at a University in Johannesburg. 

Serisha is hiding her pregnancy. At two months, she is still able to conceal her growing baby bump at university from the prying and somewhat judgmental stares that she feels are sure to come from some of her fellow students. 

She decided to reach out to Stacey and J Sbu. To protect her identity, the team have decided to give her the name 'Serisha'. 

#TheFixer is a feature on Stacey and J Sbu's show in which the duo gives KZN listeners an opportunity to share their dilemmas that they seek advice on. Together with the help of fellow KZN listeners, Stacey and J Sbu try to help the concerned party fix their problem.

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Serisha shared with the team that she grew up in a very religious family that believes that a woman should only be with child after she has married. She grew up being the apple of her parents' eye. An academic overachiever, if you will. 

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As an only child, her parents were very strict with her and monitored almost her every move. It was not until she moved out of home and the city she spent her entire childhood in that she had some sort of freedom.

Her studies have meant that she only goes back home once or twice a year. 

In the time apart in a different city, Serisha began dating and has recently found out that she is with child. 

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Listen as Serisha shares her story in her own words below: 

Even though the pregnancy was unplanned and she does not have a job, Serisha's boyfriend, who is also a student but has a part time job, have decided to keep the baby. 

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The boyfriend's parents have been told and are keen to be grandparents, it is only Serisha's parents who are still left in the dark. She is expected to return home to Durban in September this year and if she does not say anything to them beforehand, she will be six months pregnant and very clearly carrying. 

So, what should Serisha do? 

Break the news to her parents before September over the phone or wait until September to break the news to them in person. 

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