Black Coffee tells men it's okay to cry and be vulnerable

Black Coffee tells men it's okay to cry and be vulnerable

"I'm not ok... I hope you listen and offer support to [the] men in your lives."

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South Africa's DJ Black Coffee/ Instagram (@realblackcoffee)

South African deejay, Black Coffee, says no court of law can ever fix the pain he felt after his ex-wife accused him of physical abuse. 

The 46-year-old made the remarks after encouraging men not to be afraid to show their emotions. The 'LaLaLa' hitmaker shared his thoughts on Twitter this week. 

"Ay....I'm not ok," he wrote.

The Grammy Award winner also shared a series of images telling men that it is okay to cry, break down, ask for support, be vulnerable, and go to therapy. 

"This is my wish for other men," he captioned the images. 

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After his followers flooded his replies with messages of support, the Grammy Award winner decided to open up even more. 

"Thank you for [the] positive messages I'll be fine. Going through some of the comments makes one realize why most men bottle things up and some even take their lives, I hope you listen and offer support to men in your lives when they show vulnerability," he tweeted. 

Black Coffee, whose real name is Nkosinathi Maphumulo, then addressed the abuse claims of his ex-wife, Enhle Mbali Mlotshwa. The couple split in 2019 and things quickly turned ugly. In 2021, Enhle accused her ex of abuse. 

The actress filed a restraining order against the DJ after accusing him of slapping her on the wrist and pushing her during an argument at their former marital home on her 33rd birthday.  He was allegedly upset that the birthday dinner was taking place at the house. 

Black Coffee denied the abuse claims. “I did not assault Mbali, the mother of my children. I didn’t do it now and I have never done it before," he stated. 

A court denied Enhle's application for a court order, but she vowed to continue fighting for herself and abused women. Black Coffee reflected on the allegations in his latest tweets. 

"The day my ex accused me of physically harming her, nothing was the same. It has left a heavy void in my heart a void I can’t shake off. I lost a big part of myself, no court of law could ever fix the pain and shame I still carry today," he wrote. 

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It seems Black Coffee's tweets were triggered by a post that Enhle shared earlier this month to support the 16 Days of Activism campaign. 

"My late father was abusive, to see her continue to ride that wave as a victim using me and using some of my tweets about it on that swimwear as an activist is quite dark and irresponsible. She knows people who abused her she must confront them and leave me alone," the DJ wrote. 

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Enhle has not responded to her ex-husband's tweets but took to her Instagram Stories on Thursday to share screenshots of messages she received from women sharing their stories of abuse. 

Main image credit: Instagram/@realblackcoffee

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