How soon is too soon to move in with someone?
A KZN listener needs our help. She and her partner are planning to move in together after a few months of dating, but she's not sure if it is too soon...
This young lady needs help from KZN and Jane. Listen to her question to Jane, or read the details in the podcast below.
There used to be a time when couples didn’t live together before getting married, but with more and more people shunning marriage and seeing the benefits of testing the water by sharing a flat first, cohabiting is now the norm. One of the biggest moves a couple can do is move in together.
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The question is, is there a right time to move in together?
I don't think so! I think it's one of those things that happens when it feels right.
This cohabiting thing can work out fully and sometimes it can be an absolute disaster, but the heart wants what it wants!
Moving in with your significant other is exciting and scary at the same time, but for most couples, this is an inevitable move! The truth is, all relationships unwrap at their own pace. Some people know immediately and for others, it's a matter of a year or two - for some, even more. So there is no rulebook for any of us to follow.
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With the help of psychologists, Women's Health put together points on the ideal time to move in with your partner (I can't say I agree with them fully, but they are interesting):
- When you've been together for at least one year
- When you know each other very well - this is relative
- When there are no external factors swaying your vision
- When all cards are on the table
- When you're on the same page about your furure
For Mr T and I, he came back to my home the first night we met and we sat on the roof until the sun came up. Sure, this isn't something I would have done with just anyone, but taking into account that we had more than a couple of mutual friends and I had been told about him for years, I didn't feel it was an unsafe thing to do.
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From that night he never left but rather started moving his stuff across, that was some 15 years ago and tomorrow we celebrate our 10-year wedding anniversary.
Is two months together too short to move in with someone? Or is it a case of "when you know, you know"? Let me know your thoughts below.