Do you have a ‘’missing stair” friend?

Do you have a ‘’missing stair” friend?

That one friend you have to tip-toe around finally has an explanation...

Young man sitting on staircase
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Is there ever an elephant in the room when you're around a particular friend? Is there something you have to tip-toe around or perhaps warn new friends of unusual behaviour?

We've all had a friend who can be classified as "the missing stair". Let's dive in...

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A missing stair friend is a metaphor for a person within a social group who many people know is untrustworthy or otherwise has to be "managed", but around whom the group chooses to work by discreetly warning newcomers of their behaviour, rather than addressing them and their behaviour openly.

Take a look at this TikToker who sheds light on this unique friendship:

@geezyunit ignoring = enabling #greenscreen #missingstair #friends ♬ original sound - Amy Michelle

It can be a very slippery slope when faced with confrontation or conflict. "Ignoring = enabling," shares Amy Michelle on TikTok.

Here's more of what the internet has to share:

  • "When you try to handle the missing stair, they treat YOU like the problem"
  • "Missing stair coworkers though...yikes"
  • "Having a disclaimer for toxic behaviour is wrong"
  • "This is probably why I have no friends lol"
  • "If a friend group does this, it's a red flag for me. We need to be able to have hard conversations."

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