Baggage Claim: What to and not bring into a new relationship
The reality is that some relationships do not have a happy ending. We all go into them with the best intentions, but the reality is things do not always work out as we planned.
There is that old saying that “breaking up is hard to do.” Well, not only is it hard to do, but it can be hard to handle the aftermath and the emotional complications that burp up out of us when we’re in such a vulnerable state.
There are those of us who do end relationships amicably, though. Where you and partner decide together that the relationship is not working and that you two should go your separate ways. Albeit this may be easier when you and your partner are not married and have no children, as this tends to cause more tension.
Stacey and JSbu on Thursday afternoon wanted to chat to KZN listeners about the things that we leave behind in our old relationships that we tend to carry into our next. These can be tangible or certain learnt behaviours. For instance, Stacey shared the following with regards to an ex-boyfriend whom she lived with:
When we broke up, I told him he can take anything and everything in the apartment we lived in. Including all the furniture which was purchased mostly by me. The only thing I kept was the washing machine, I did not want anything that reminded me of our relationship in my new home.
Can you relate with Stacey? Would you be okay with your partner keeping all the items: perhaps a bed, a couch, a pot plant that you both helped grow or maybe a rug that they had previously from the home that they shared with an ex?
Or perhaps for you, it is not the tangible things but rather the behaviours. So, maybe your partner enjoyed doing or watching a particular TV show with an ex. Would it bother you, if they wanted to carry on that tradition with you?
What are the things you don't want your partner bringing into you home from their old relationship? #StaceyandJSbu
Posted by East Coast Drive on Thursday, August 20, 2020
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