When is it the right time to share your dark secrets in a relationship?

When is it the right time to share your dark secrets in a relationship?

After listening to an HIV-positive woman's confession to Thandolwethu on East Coast Urban, Bongani wonders what is the right thing to do in such a situation?

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hiv testing / istock

Listen to the discussion, or read the details under the podcast.

A woman sent a message to Thandolwethu and confessed that she has HIV and she’s infected her boyfriend and doesn’t know how to tell him. Thandolwethu brought the 22-year old woman from Queensburgh into the studio to have a conversation about this.

Read: "I infected my boyfriend with HIV and I don’t know how to tell him"

Being HIV-positive or being heavily in debt isn't one of those things you can take lightly. The question is: When are you supposed to tell your partner? Before which relationship milestone?

Read: Bongani: 'Things just went from bad to worse'

Bongani insists: "It's not something you can easily come out and say on the first date. I mean, it's a heavy burden of a secret on yourself as is, how do you tell someone who will probably leave you for being open and honest with them about it?"

If you’re living with HIV/AIDS and need assistance or support, please call the AIDS HELPLINE on 0800 012 322.

How do you break such news to someone you want in your life long-term? Share your thoughts below.

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