Is being kind in South Africa tricky?

Is being kind in South Africa tricky?

We understand that sometimes your kindness can be taken advantage of. 

A person giving another person warm bowl of food
A person giving another person warm bowl of food/iStock/kuarmungadd

This is a question that most South Africans may have thought about, but not all of them dare to speak about it. Mostly because they are afraid of being judged as insensitive. 

The truth is, many people want to help those less fortunate than themselves, as lending a helping hand can be so fulfilling. 

But what happens when you find yourself being kind and the person on the receiving end starts taking advantage of your good nature? 

We guess it is for this very reason that people have become more restrained in offering help these days. 

Being kind whilst also setting boundaries isn't as easy as it seems. It is weird how some people are all too happy asking for help from the same person and yet they stray from others. 

A South African man recently took to Reddit to share his experience. He entitled his post, 'Being kind in South Africa is tricky'. 

"Just a casual share... I notice a lot these days that once you do something nice for our fellow countrymen, they end up expecting it to be the status quo." 

He went on to explain that he got chatting with the security guards at his complex one day and it just so happened that the security shared that he failed to bring lunch that day. 

The man, who didn't think much of it at the time, offered to buy him something as he was going to the shops. 

There were two guards on duty so he purchased them some lunch, but it seems that since that day, the security guard has been all too happy to make a standing order with the resident. 

The resident shared that as much as the security guard is a nice guy, he doesn't know how to tell him that what he is doing is not okay...

How would you approach this?

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