Is your relationship equal?

So, I have to admit. I have a new favourite TV show. It's 'Our Perfect Wedding' on Mzansi Magic, channel 161.

I know the show has been on for a while now and I guess I'm jumping on the band wagon a little late, but I love the show.

It's presented by comedian Tumi Morake and documents the three days before a couple's big day. Through it all we see the ups and downs, the smiles the tears, the faux pas and most importantly the "I do".

Yesterday's episode I found particularly interesting.

The bride seemed to make all the decisions pertaining to the wedding - going as far as telling the groom "I love it, so you have to love it".

I actually felt sorry for the poor groom because he had absolutely no say when they were picking the table decorations or taking a look at the venue.

Here's a snippet: 

It made me think of equality in relationships.

Typically, we are all raised to believe that an event such as a wedding is the bride's day, and the groom has to comply and obey. Similarly, later on in the relationship, a lot of people believe that it is the husband's job to make the the money that keeps the household running, and the wife's job to cook, clean, take care of the children, and keep the house running.

I was raised by a working mom and dad. In our household we don't have the roles of man and wife so much so that, when I was three weeks old, my mother returned to university and she left me in the care of my dad during the day. A lot of men wouldn't do this for their families and would rather hire help. Our family believes in equal roles and my fiancé cooks and cleans too. 

So, do you believe in these traditional roles, or are you in more of a 50/50 type of relationship?

Leave your comments below.

(Photo: Xolane and Koketso, via facebook.com/OurPerfectWeddingMzansi)