Award-winning artist Busiswa has shared heartbreaking details
of how she suffered abuse from her two previous lovers in an Instagram post and says more details are in her upcoming album.
Award-winning artist Busiswa has shared heartbreaking details of how she suffered abuse from her two previous lovers in an Instagram post and says more details are in her upcoming album.
The month of November puts the spotlight on Gender-Based Violence in South Africa. Millions of people suffer from abuse inflicted by their loved ones.
Over the years, more celebrities have been coming out to talk about the abuse they have suffered. The latest one is singer Busiswa.
In a lengthy Instagram video post, the star spoke about how she suffered physical, emotional, psychological, and financial abuse for six years.
“In years between 2013 and 2019 I was in, not one but two abusive relationships. The first was with Sfiso Mazibuko who abused me physically, psychologically, and emotionally. The second was with Katlego Mlangeni, who is the father of my child. He abused me physically, emotionally, financially, not only while we were in a relationship, but he also came after me four months after our break up to beat me up once again for seeing me out with someone else,” she said.
She went on to highlight how she started by making excuses for her abusers.
“I'm making this video to talk about gender-based violence but also, to talk to women and girls who have or may ever find themselves in those situations. When I first got hit by a man, as in a man first laid his hand on me, my first thoughts were not anger but pitty. I was in love and I thought the person that I was in love with was going through some things and I felt I needed to help them get through those things,” she said.
Like many women, the 'uWrongo' hitmaker says she sort help with the hope that her abusers would change.
"I tried different things during the relationship. From therapy, anger management classes to the elders and prayer. I really thought that abuse is something you can get through with your partner,” she said.
The survivor says those who are in an abusive relationship should never think they can change an abuser.
“I'm here to say to ladies who are in abusive relationships or who'll ever come across that situation, God forbid. You can't. It's not your place, it's not your responsibility, it's not your job to change an abuser."
She went on to detail how she lived in fear, but eventually got the strength to get out of the relationships and survive.
The singer says: "Going forward my story will be told in my music and only my music."
She says her new album, which she has finished working on and has submitted for mastering, will detail more about her personal life and how she survived.
"My music is going to tell my story right now, hence the album," she said.
Listen to her story below:
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