If you could go back in time, would you still have children?

If you could go back in time, would you still have children?

This is a pretty serious question which many answer with a pretty resounding 'no'...

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Listen as KZN and Jane discuss the topic in the podcast, then read more below: 

On Tuesday, a girlfriend and I were laughing at how relieved we both were to have the school holidays drawing to an end. Don't get me wrong, holidays are a dream when not having to juggle work and the well-being of three kids as well - but that is not a luxury everyone can enjoy.

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This holiday has been the best us five have had as a unit. Real quality time as the kids are now a little older - seven and the twins are now five.

This friend is also a working mom with two kids. She laughed, saying if she knew what she knows now...

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I must state my kids bring such joy in Mr T and my world. In fact, it's hard to imagine the world without them, but sho, this parenting thing can also be scary - mentally, financially, and emotionally. 

At times it's so overwhelming and not fun at all. Being an adult requires dedication, which is a full-time job.

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I came across this article, 'I Regret Having Children', and it was alarming. It was so frank and, to be honest, surprising! I can't imagine my life without our kids. 

Sure, it would be nice to have extra money to buy nice things, travel (like overseas or even to the loo unaccompanied), and to not have to worry as your heart lives attached to other people's bodies. 

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Mother's guilt is also a hard thing to grasp and I'm proud to say after seven years I am learning to cope with this better. Of course when having kids you fall pretty low on the priority list, and this again is something I am focusing on more this year.

Being a mom, however, I wouldn't change it for the world! Those three kids give me purpose and the joy is an intoxicating gift that honestly lights up my soul.

If you had it to do over again, would you still have children? 

This question was posed in a survey and of the more than 10,000 responses, 70 percent said 'no', and now I want to know what your response will be?

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