"My partner broke up with me because of my BMI!"
Updated | By East Coast Radio
Uh, sorry not sorry, but he must get a life...
As a woman (and a man) there are lots of things that we go through when it comes to our bodies. The reasoning can be varied, considering it can literally just take a comment from one person to shake up your mindset with regards to your body image.
So we cannot imagine how it must feel when your partner of five years is the one who is trying to create a negative self image. A woman turned to Reddit to share her experience with her partner and how he gave her an ultimatum regarding maintaining a healthy BMI.
Love comes in different shapes, sizes, and forms, and should never be limited to someone feeling pressured to meet a certain standard other than their own. Learning about self love and maintaining that love takes a lot of energy, because we face several obstacles on our paths.
This woman managed to maintain her level of self love and didn't fall into this very unhealthy pattern of control that her partner tried to impart on her. That's an important lesson to remember, no one else's love for you should trump your love for yourself...
"My 5 year long partner broke up with me because I refused to promise him ‘to do everything in my power’ to stay within the normal BMI as long as we stay together." (Reddit)
His reasoning (after five years) was one, he wouldn't be attracted to her if she was overweight and therefore wouldn't be able to engage in a physical relationship with her; and two, he felt that if she cared about their relationship then she should understand that "slimness" was important to him and should be prioritised above everything else, including her career.
First and foremost, this behaviour sounds extremely controlling and manipulative. And if someone who you have been with for half a decade has these rules of engagement, then you are way better off without them.
The sad part is that the woman admitted that she really believed he was the one and they were even trying to get pregnant together. She is not overweight at the moment but she admitted that she doesn't have good genetics and could not guarantee that she will maintain this weight throughout their relationship.
I am completely heart-broken because I genuinely thought that I would be with this person long-term (we have been already trying to have kids and I was super excited about that). Am I wrong here in not giving my partner that promise (which realistically I might not be able to keep and which goes against my personal values) at the expense of us breaking up?- Reddit User/u/Holmes_k
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The crazy in her post besides her ex, was that some guys actually came back to her asking for her pic so that they can decipher if she is overweight or not... like, seriously?!
If there is one thing that we want to leave you with, it's that you should celebrate your body and always, always remember your first love in life should be you. No one should ever threaten to take that away from you.
You is amazing, you is kind, and you is beautiful...
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