Do people pressurise you to tie the knot?
“When are you going to get married?" is one of the questions that most long-term couples dread. But why should couples who are happy as they are have to be subjected to this type of pressure?
Couples who have been dating for over a year tend to get questioned by family and friends about when the plans for engagement or marriage will commence. I mean, I know of a couple who have been dating for over five years - can you imagine the heat they are getting?
Then there is the case of the never-ending engagement. How long is too long? I know another couple who have been engaged for over three years and have not set a date for any time in the near future.
In life, there is always going to be pressure that you're going to have to deal with. Pressure to impress at work, to look a certain way, and even how to act. When it comes to relationships, the pressure mounts to take your relationship to the next level continuously. Once married, then it's time to have baby number one. Then after number one comes number two, and it goes on and on.
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Life is pressurised as it is, so why do we need others to load more pressure on us? If you're in a long-term relationship and are enjoying it that way, then choose to own it. Taking the step of marriage is something that no one should ever feel pressured into doing, and doing it just because you're under pressure is the worst idea ever. But trust me, when the time is right, you'll know right away. Thirteen years later with my soulmate and we're still going strong.
If you're currently in a long-term relationship, have you ever been hounded by friends or family to get married to your partner? Share your comments and stories with me.
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