What is your secret to winning an argument in a relationship?

What is your secret to winning an argument in a relationship?

Arguments in any form of relationship are unavoidable. Show me a couple who does not argue and I will show you a car that can fly. Yes, they do not exist, according to Stacey...

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So, what is the secret to winning an argument in a relationship? 

When in a long-term relationship, it is inevitable that you and your partner will bicker and fight almost every day. Now, especially with the COVID-19 pandemic, many couples are forced to spend more time together. As humans, we all react to conflict differently, there are those of us who flee, face it, and those of us who avoid conflict altogether.

On Tuesday afternoon, Stacey & JSbu asked KZN to share their fool-proof ways to win an argument with their partners. 

Remember, it is simply human nature for us to want to win in all things we do. That toxic thinking often filters through to one's intimate relationships. Many psychologists urge couples to avoid this urge. Instead, we are encouraged to be calm and think more logically. 

Let us face it though, when you come home from a long day at work and your partner who came home before you or was at home the whole day has not bothered to lift a finger in cleaning the home, logic goes out the door. 

Stacey & JSbu shared some common ways people use to win an argument.

  • Getting emotional: 9 out of 10 times once someone starts crying, the arguing will end
  • Flipping the switch: when in the wrong, the person who is in the wrong will somehow manage to flip the discussion to it seeming like they are not in the wrong and you are. 
  • Fight till the end: This tactic is done to emotionally exhaust your partner by being argumentative to the very end so that they will eventually just let you have your way because it is just much easier to let it go than win the argument.

If you are one of the people who uses the above ways to win an argument, that may not be the most healthy of behaviours. According to Cosmopolitan Magazine, being prepared for an uncomfortable conversation with your significant other is very important. 

But, let's be honest, KZN- what kind of fighter are you and what is your secret to winning an argument with your partner?

Listen to the podcast to hear what KZN had to say: 

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